savechuckandblair:

Given the recent tragedy in The Vampire Diaries’ fandom, and how intense the Gossip Girl fandom is at the moment, we feel it is important to make a couple of things clear:

1) #savechuckandblair does not support cyber bullying. We believe it is important to remember at all times that there…

sincerelyyoursneveragain:

So the fact that Dair fans have decided to start a petition saying Gossip Girl promotes abuse is just a little bit ridiculous. Because regardless of what any of you Dair shippers say, you wouldn’t be all over the ‘abuse bandwagon’ again if Dair still was together. Regardless of whether Chair is an…

crindywithclubsauce:

dairingoriental:

This is a respectful post. Apparently some Dair shippers are sending anon hate and bullying messages to you guys.

Now, I apologize on their behalf because I believe nobody should bully anyone. We like the ship we like and let’s respect that. It is even worse coming from us since we were the…

I appreciate what you’re saying here, but this apology is so backhanded. For one thing, you shouldn’t be the one apologizing. It’s clear that you are a sane shipper, as are many other people in your fanbase. But to suggest that the behaviour of Dair shippers is worse, because of the messages you received from Chair fans at the beginning of this ship war, is ridiculous.

Dair shippers aren’t - and never have been - an innocent party in all of this. I know a lot of you like to think you’re the more mature fanbase, but because of certain shippers, that is simply untrue. Neither fanbase is more mature than the other, because let’s face it, we’re arguing over Gossip Girl. 

And honestly, for all the terrible things Chair fans throw at Dair fans, nothing will ever be more insulting than calling someone a rapist/abuse supporter, imo. They are absolutely disgusting insults, and after the introduction of this campaign, it is clear that it is a collective belief, among a large portion of the Dair fandom.

I know that you’re trying to bring peace in the ship war, but people can’t have a war with themselves, and Dair fans have been just as guilty in all of this, as Chair fans. I’m sorry if I sound like a bitch, but I’m tired of people acting like they have any kind of moral high ground in a ship war. 

dairingoriental:

This is a respectful post. Apparently some Dair shippers are sending anon hate and bullying messages to you guys.

Now, I apologize on their behalf because I believe nobody should bully anyone. We like the ship we like and let’s respect that. It is even worse coming from us…

stephwinchester:

I just can’t hold them - a chuck bass feels post

Let me just start by reminding you who we are dealing with.

Chuck Bass.

A boy who - since the very moment he was born - had everything, and only wanted the one thing he didn’t: his father’s love.

A boy who was constantly…

crindywithclubsauce:

I watch A LOT of TV, and I used to be a fan of Gossip Girl. Back in 2008, I wasn’t even ashamed to admit it. I liked it on a purely shallow level; it was simply good, fun television. The best things about the show, for me, were not the ridiculous (yet still interesting) storylines, but the wonderful clothes, the fantastic city, and the pretty people that I got to see on my TV screen every week. 

That was ruined for me when an influx of Dair shippers barged their way into the fandom of a show I once loved, and I became embarrassed by not only the poor storylines, but also the people within the show’s fandom, because the subject matter that had been brought up, by these shippers, angered me.

I’m not about to start hating on Dan/Blair and complain about all the reasons why I do/don’t want them together. I’m writing this, not to give you a list of reasons of why you should ship a fictional couple, but because I feel things in the fandom have gotten far too heavy and serious, especially for a show called Gossip Girl. I’ve seen so many Dair fans throw the “abuse-supporter” card at Chuck/Blair fans, and honestly, I’m tired of it.

Firstly, “abuse-supporter” is probably one of the worst insults I’ve ever seen within a fandom. To be a supporter of abuse, I assume you would have to enjoy watching an abusive relationship, and fully advocate it. And I’m sure that if you ask any Chair shipper if they enjoyed these so-called counts of abuse (3x17, 4x20) they would tell you that they didn’t enjoy those scenes at all, because they want their favorite couple to be together, and they want to see them happy. I’m also positive that, in real life, they would never want to see a woman being beaten by her husband. So, why, for the love of God, are they being called this?

It’s always going to be a difficult subject when the hotel incident, or the final scene from 4x20, is brought up, because shippers will never agree on whether or not CB had an “abusive relationship”. Personally, I think the writers took some of the key elements of the show - scheming and manipulative main characters - and wrote a storyline that had no business being on a teen soap opera. They got carried away, caught up in the ‘drama’, and wrote something that wasn’t abusive, but incredibly inappropriate.

The fact that the writers even considered writing a story where a character was traded for a hotel, is awful, and is more of a detriment to the writing team, than the characters of Chuck and Blair. They’re fictional, which means they can bounce back from the worst situations possible. In the land of fiction, people even come back from the dead.

I stopped watching the show for a long time after that episode. I was annoyed that couple that I loved so much was being put into a stupid and over-the-top situation, and I wasn’t enjoying them like I used to. When I started watching again in season 5, I decided to ignore everything that had happened in the second half of season three, because this is a tv show, and if I wish to do so, I can.

When Chuck and Blair reunited in 5x10, I was happy - not because they were back together, but because Chuck had shown real maturity and proved that he had changed by telling Blair that he was willing to love and care for her baby. This was a representation of a healthier relationship. This was two adults coming together, despite external obstacles, and making the decision to be together. Blair no longer feel that she had to be with the father of her baby, if it meant not being alone. And Chuck had clearly come a long way from being the spoilt bad boy of season one.

I could get on board with this Chuck and Blair, and why wouldn’t I? At this point in the series, this is the type of relationship Gossip Girl is missing; a young, honest, functioning couple, who are going to deal with their problems and responsibilities together, in a normal, healthy way.

Dan and Blair are not a “healthy” relationship. The last time I checked, a healthly relationship meant that the two people involved were honest with each other, and while arguments and problems will arise, they always aim to do what is best for each other. Dan humiliated Blair at her wedding, and repeatedly lied to her about who sent the video. He also tried to get her to run away with him when she came to him in her time of need, in 5x01. This is far from “flawless”, or “perfect”, or “healthy”. But it’s not going to be healthy, because it’s Gossip Girl, and this show simply doesn’t do healthy relationships. (Where’s the drama in that?) Besides, I’m sure there are loads of other reasons why people ship Dair, without having to make that false statement.

I am sure that when CB reconcile for the final time, I’ll fall in love with them all over again, because I’ve wanted them to get their happily ever after since they had sex in the back of his limo. I know I will be judged because of this. I’ll be called an “abuse-supporter”, “Chairio”, “Chuckistan”, because I like watching a fictional couple on TV. 

Frankly, the last two “insults” are so inane and immature, that I could care less if someone called me that. But if someone called me an “abuse-supporter” to my face, I would cut that bitch down. 

It’s an ignorant moniker. It is clear by the language and grammar used by the Dair shippers who throw this name around, that they have no idea what they’re talking about. Reading a few things on Wikipedia about what constitutes an abusive relationship does not make you an expert on the subject, and it does not give you the right to tell people in the fandom of a CW-network TV show, that they support abuse. 

If you really feel so strongly about abusive relationships, help out a women’s shelter, or donate money to an organization that helps real women (note: real women) who have suffered. Don’t use it as an a way to defend your shipping preferences or hate on somebody else’s, because that makes YOU the sick and insane ones, not Chair shippers.

Abuse is a serious subject, and it astounds me that people bring it up as a way to defend their ship, or to bash another one. What is wrong with you? If you didn’t want to see people being humiliated by those around them (a sign of abuse, as many Dair shippers have informed me), then why the fuck are you watching Gossip Girl? It’s what these people do. It’s a specialty of the beloved Blair Waldorf, who in real life, would probably have pushed someone into harming themselves, due to her incessant bullying.

This brings me to the final point I want to make. Insisting that Chair shippers are victim-blaming, makes you a hypocrite. I read a Dair shipper’s post today that claimed Chair shippers are victim-blaming, by warranting anything Chuck has done to Blair in the past, because she’s also done some terrible things.

Like it or not, victim-blaming is the reason so many people can still love Blair Waldorf, despite all of her wrong-doings. She humiliated Jenny and knocked her off of her pedestal in 1x16, and we all accepted it, because Blair was back in her rightful place as Queen, and it didn’t matter what she had to do to get there. In 1x03, most viewers supported Blair as she attempted to humiliate Serena (and indirectly, Eric) at the college mixer, because Serena “had it coming to her”. Yes, she slept with her boyfriend, but Blair wasn’t hurting Nate in the same way, and her actions could have jeopardized Serena’s college career, and her future. That is, in my opinion, much more serious than a drunken mistake committed by two teenagers. In fact, in a large majority of Blair’s schemes/take-downs, she’s actually been in the wrong.

I feel like I’ve said enough, and got my point across. I’m not trying to start a ship-war here; this post isn’t about why you should ship ‘this couple’, and why you shouldn’t ship ‘that couple’. I just wanted to point out the terrible things that are being said in these “ship-wars” are not okay, and people really should think more before they start throwing their ignorant views around.

Enjoy Gossip Girl for what it is: an often shallow show, that is occasionally witty, and showcases it’s attractive cast.